The One, soul mate, my other/better half.  All terms to describe finding that special someone in your life.  When I was younger I believed in the whole finding “the one” hype but as I grow older (and wiser) I’m starting to realize that is just unrealistic.  Heck, I even took this quick questionnaire to see my chances of finding my “soul mate” here in LA.  Let’s just say I didn’t even get a whole number (1.58 to be exact – insert sad face).  Even if you’re in a relationship or married, try the questionnaire, it’s fun.  So how many people are perfect for you?

Maybe that’s what I’m doing wrong, looking for that “perfect girl.”  We all know no one on this earth is perfect but could there be a perfect person out there for us?  Isn’t that what your “soulmate/the one” is suppose to be?  I’ve always had a vision of what I want my relationship to be and I think it has put too much pressure to find that perfect someone that I’ve closed the door on opportunities that could have worked.  I’ve always told myself that I would rather be single for the rest of my life than settle for someone just to get married and start a family.

It’ll happen when you least expect it or you’ll find her when you’re not even looking.  You’ve heard all the clichés about meeting that special person.  So does that mean you shouldn’t put yourself out there or look for someone on one of the hundreds of dating sites they have out there?  I really hope not because if it is, I’m doing it all wrong, haha.  Maybe it’s bad timing or maybe I’m getting pickier the older I get but I’ve recently been shifting my focus from finding someone to improving someone, myself.

I don’t think anyone can take care of someone better than you can take care of yourself.  Okay, well maybe one person, your mom because mom know best.  Shoutout to you mom!  I think being able to take care of yourself and create your own happiness is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have.  Being a natural introvert, I’ve come to realize the times when I’ve felt the loneliest in my life have been those times that I haven’t taken care of myself and would compare my life to what other’s had/have.  There are plenty of fish in the sea and I look forward to meeting that person I’m suppose to be with but until then I will continue to be the one.

QOTP: “Being single isn’t a ‘problem’ to be solved. It’s an incredible opportunity to create your own happiness.” –Matthew Husey