Have you ever heard a song and thought, man was that written for me because I can relate to the lyrics?  Well that’s what this post is about.  It’s been almost 2 years since my last relationship which feels both like an eternity ago and yesterday at the same time if that makes any sense.  The one thing I do remember towards the end of the relationship was hearing this Tori Kelly song, ‘Dear No One.’  When I first heard the lyrics, it pretty much summed how I was feeling about the situation.  Here is a snippet of the lyrics that I thought she wrote for me.

I like being independent

Not so much of an investment

No one to tell me what to do

I like being by myself

Don’t gotta entertain anybody else

No one to answer to….

 

But sometimes, I just want somebody to hold

Someone to give me the jacket when it’s cold

Got that young love even when we’re old…

 

So if you’re out there I swear to be good to you

But I’m done looking, for my future someone

Cause when the time is right

You’ll be here, but for now

Dear no one, this is your love song

Don’t get me wrong, I think there are a lot of benefits to being single, heck I even listed a few in this post last year. Recently, however, I’ve had this sudden unexplainable feeling of loneliness.  I can’t pinpoint what triggered this feeling but this is my way of hopefully alleviating the sense of hopelessness I’ve been struggling with.  Maybe it’s the change of weather from rainy/dark to sunshine, maybe it’s seeing most of my friends in relationships getting married or starting families, maybe it’s the fact that I live with a married couple that shows me what I’m missing out on or maybe because I’ll be turning another year older in a few days and still in the same position I was in 12 years ago when I graduated from college, single.  If you asked me where I thought I would be at this age 12 years ago, I would have said married with a kid or two at the very least.  Since we don’t live in a world of what ifs or ‘I would have imagined my life would look like this’, here is my love letter to my future girlfriend/wife.

Dear No One,

First things first, Thank You!  Thank you for being unapologetically you.  Although it’s only been a few months since we’ve met, I feel like we’ve known each other since we were little.  It’s hard to put into words and more of just a ‘feeling’ I get when I’m with you.  You make me feel at ‘home’ where I can be myself without the fear of judgment.  Your positive attitude and go-getter mentality really inspire me to go for what I want and be the best version of myself.

No one knows what the future holds but I hope to be there for you in good times and bad.  I look forward to the many challenges we face both individually and as a team.  I want to be the first person you share good news with and the shoulder you lean on when times are tough.  I’m a believer that great relationships aren’t built in a day but every day.  Here’s to learning more about each other, sharing the ups and downs life will inevitably throw at us and continuing to grow, together.

Love,
Kevin

I’m totally going to use this as a template for future letters to my girlfriend/wife, haha. This post is for you, girl I’m meant to be with, can’t wait to meet you one day!  Until we meet, I’ll continue to grow and be the best version of myself for you, I and us.  Don’t forget to tell and show your loved one(s) how much they mean to you every day because tomorrow is never guaranteed!  Until next time… ♡!

QOTP: ‘One day you’ll meet someone who doesn’t care about your past because they want to be with you in your future.’ –unknown