So, what was wrong with this one?  Let me guess, she started to like you too much?  Those are a few of the questions my friends ask me after I tell them I’m no longer interested or seeing someone.  I’ll be the first to admit that I’ll find the silliest reasons for losing interest in someone and a big reason why I’m still single.  It’s something I’m conscious of and working on it but like anything in life, change is hard.

With wedding season on the horizon, I can’t help but think about that dreaded moment when all the couples join each other on the dance floor for the slow jams and I’ll be sitting at my table all by myself, haha.  I love slam jams!  In all seriousness though, I’m looking forward to sharing my friend’s special days over the next few months.

I used to have the mentality of “the grass is greener on the other side” up until recently.  I thought I wouldn’t be happy until I found that special someone and started a life with them.  I’ve realized that that type of mentality is putting your happiness on something that is out of your control.  It’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen is the mentality I’ve adopted recently and it’s helped me just go with the flow.  For that reason, I’ve gone on dates with girls that don’t necessarily meet the checklist I’ve created in my head.

As much as I’d like to find someone to share life’s ups and downs with, I can think of numerous benefits to being single.  Until Ms. Right comes along, here are the things I’ll enjoy.

Freedom

Let’s face it, when you’re a relationship you lose the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want.  Not having to consider what another person wants to do or eat can be quite liberating.

Having the whole bed to myself

Don’t get me wrong, cuddling is one of my favorite things to do but so is having the ability to sleep diagonal with all limbs spread out.  I’ve had numerous nights where I would end up on the other end of the bed in the middle of the night, haven’t you?

Spending time with family and friends

Having time to spend with friends and family becomes a lot more difficult when you enter into a relationship.  Since I live so close to my parents I go home a few times a week to hang out and get a few home cooked meals, thanks Mom! J

Saving money

One round turns to 2 then turns to dessert.  After you know it, you’ll wonder where all your money went.  Having only to budget for one instead of 2 saves not only time but money.

No drama, fights or compromise

Relationships come with a lot of great things but they also come with compromise and disagreements.  Always having to consider another person can get exhausting and lead to bickering and fighting.

Don’t get me wrong, I look forward to the day where I meet someone that I have a connection with.  When I do, I know I’ll have 2-3x more benefits to write about than the list above.  Until then, I’m going to embrace my freedom and enjoy the grass on this side.

QOTP: “People who have been single for too long are the hardest to love.  They have become so used to being single, independent and self-sufficient that it takes something extraordinary to convince them that they need you in their life.” –unknown